SUMMER OUTFITS & MORE

Oops. Apparently I've not updated this in a year because I decided that I wasn't very good at blogging. Then I realised that not being good at something hasn't stopped me from doing it regardless in the past. So I'm back. Starting off with this outfit which I recently brought for a birthday thing that's gonna be happening later this month.

DRESS: Evans.co.uk
LINGERIE: Evans.co.uk
ROUND NECK CARDIGAN: Forever21.com
FLAMINGO POSTS + STUD EARRING SET: Forever21.com

Cool print, lovely cut and a nice neckline which I'm hoping and praying won't come down too low when I sit down. Though I expect as per usual it's nothing I can't fix with a safety pin and some patience. I saw a dress on Etsy with a very similar design but it was up to and over $100 USD and I certainly don't have the budget for something like that. These items, and others purchased but not pictured, cost a lot less than $100! I'm pretty sure now is the best time to go and get something since the high summer sales have either started or are in their prime. Also, don't forget to sign up to newsletters even if you think deliberately filling your mail account with corporate babble isn't the best idea - what you'll find is a lot of places send discount vouchers pretty much weekly to encourage you to make a purchase. Trawl through your inbox before you go e-shopping and you might be pleasantly surprised to find all that shite is slightly more worthwhile than it looks! For example, I brought all this stuff as they began their high summer sales, but also found out that Evans were doing a 15% off deal (on top of their sale prices).

I'm excited about wearing pastels since a lot of the clothing I own is in dark or bold colours (which is actually usual of most high street plus size clothing for some strange reason). I guess when it all arrives I'll try and do an outfit post!

A POST ABOUT HATE

Having just read GirthfulGirl's tumblr post regarding obnoxious (and frankly pathetic) Facebook groups, I feel enraged.
There are COUNTLESS things wrong with such groups, but the most disgusting thing is the sheer number of people who believe it is acceptable to deem themselves responsible for telling others what to wear and how to present themselves.
I will tell you (somewhat paradoxically) who is responsible for such things - nobody.
N O B O D Y has the right to tell you that there is some kind of fucking 'limit' on what you can and cannot wear.
That is a subjective thing, and nine times out of ten if I encounter somebody who manages to take offence at me wearing tight clothing then they are several things:
- Morons
- Shallow, reprehensible, terrible people
- Dull individuals with little to no sense of individuality
- People with a lack of security regarding their OWN physique and looks.

Just like the lovely woman behind that tumblr post, I also was immediately swathed with memories of such occasions where my body shape and size was held against me before people were capable of knowing me. And not only that, I'm going to share a time when I was about 14 and hanging around in the park in Autumn with a bunch of friends and their friends.
I remember that the girls were talking about another person, and then suddenly Girl A blurts out "BUT SHE'S FAT", in this disgusted manner which genuinely stung.
The others laughed, I sort of blinked a bit and looked at Girl A, before she immediately realised what she did and I could feel her insides cringing. So she winced, and said, "you know, she has the fat mentality. But you don't. Don't worry," and then she has a smirk, "you could lose weight, too."
The 'fat mentality'?
What the fuck is the 'fat mentality'?
There's a different type of person now, someone lesser than you, because they're thicker and wider?
Why does being thicker and wider make me a lesser person than you?
The awesome truth is that it doesn't make you a lesser person. I have nobody reading this as of yet but I want to tell everybody who has ever felt embarrassed being fat that you are not a despicable person.
You are not unlovable, you are not in the wrong. I'm stating the obvious, but as sad as it is, I know that the more this kind of thing becomes commonplace, the more being fat becomes a stigma, the harder it is for people to go about their lives without feeling awkward and ashamed of themselves.
And I know this especially well, because even to this day I have my episodes of anxiety and distress about such things.
Fear of dressing in leggings and going to college because somebody will laugh at me, or talk behind my back about how 'disgusting' it may be for me to wear leggings; all because I've seen them join a Facebook group just like the one mentioned.

People are cruel, and it makes me so upset.

HI

New blog. Been following the 'fat fashion' thing for a while now, thought I'd contribute my various pounds to the collective.
Both of these polka-dot and floral dresses are available on ASOS Curve for £28.00 apiece. They are bold and gorgeous and I love them. The only problem is that they aren't exactly in my price range; but I think for something bright for the peak of the summer weather at a barbeque or picnic this is a lovely thing to wear.
I'd love to wear some bright metallic eyeshadow with these, and some bold acrylic jewellery, but keep the rest of the outfit simple. Also they feel a little retro to me, with the colours especially, the floral print is using the exact right kinds of blue and lilac. So lovely.

When I found out about ASOS Curve I freaked out and busted a proverbial nut (because of the following ASOS has with the 'normal' market); though their sizes are the petite and 'normal' range simply sized up, they work for a lot of people, and those who I've seen wearing these look absolutely stunning in them. Something interesting I've noticed - if you follow through the links for each dress you'll see that these have elastic waists regardless of the size selected, (something considered frumpy to a lot of people, but also neccessary if a garment is to have a shape which isn't blocky and makes you end up looking like some kind of polygon character model from a Final Fantasy game circa '97) which means that these will fit nicely on you and still have that nice feminine fabric that flounces and all that nice shit around you instead of being like jersey, which is clingy and sticks to you and makes you feel really conscious of the fact that you may as well be nude around others.
That was a long sentence.

Also, the blog name is just the product of me googling for a synonym of fat and picking the nicest word I could find. The exact definition?
EMBONPOINT: sufficiently fat so as to have a pleasing fullness of figure.

"Pleasing fullness of figure" is a great phrase. More people should be pleased with fullness of figure.